Anak iku ngaca marang wong tuwane

Dening Ayomi palupi irawati

Saiki bisa diweruhi kahanan bocah utawa remaja jaman saiki, akeh bocah sing ora dhuwe tata krama, duweni watak kang angel diatur, wani marang wong tuwa, ora nduwe isin tumindak ala lan isih akeh maneh kahanan negatif sing bisa ditemoni saka para mudha jaman saiki. Manawa dipetani ora kabeh kesalahan mau asale mirunggan saka bocah ing pergaulane, ananging iku diwiwiti saka pendidikan keluargane.

Pendidikan ing keluarga iku mula bukane sing mbentuk karakter lan sifate bocah. Bocah padha sinau saka wong tuwane, iki diwiwiti saka bocah isih ana ing gua garbane ibu, tumbuh lan berkembang dadi balita. Lha saka kawitan iki minangka pembentuk sing paling utama. Amarga bocah 0-6 taun iki minangka usia emas ( Golden Age). Umur 0-6 taun iki bocah gampang niru apa sing diweruhi lan dirungokkake. Mula rasulullah Muhammad SAW maringi tuladha ndidik anak umur 0-6 taun iku dididik kanthi alus (lemah lembut). Ing usia emas iki penting banget kanggo wong tuwa ngajak komunikasi, lan tansah sabar anggone ndidik anak lan menehi kasih sayang sing akeh. Amarga manawa wong tuwa ora dhawa ususe, kerep nesu, nglarang apa wae kepinginane bocah iku malah bisa ngrusak jaringan otakke bocah. Sakliyane iku sifat sing kaya mengkono iku bakal ditiru marang anakke.

Mula kahanan jaman saiki akeh bocah sing labil, gampang kepancing emosi, iku mbok menawa uga turun saka wong tuwane. Mula pola pendidikan sing kaya ngono mau wiwit saiki kudu diowahi, minangka wong tuwa kudu bisa ndadhekake anak rumangsa aman, rumangsa dilindhungi,digatekake lan akhire anak bisa krasa aman lan nyaman cedhak karo wong tuwane.

Kasil ndhidik anak dadi bocah apik, sukses, sholeh/ sholehah iku mesthi dadi gegayuhane kabeh wong tuwa. Nanging emane akeh wong tuwa sing ora sadar lan nindakake  cara ndhidik anak sing bener. ana sawijining puisi fenomenal saka ahli Konseling keluarga Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D saka Amerika Serikat kanthi irah-irahan “ children learn What They Live” ( anak iku sinau saka uripe) sing isine:

Children Learn What They Live

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

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Anak-anak Belajar dari Kehidupannya

Jika anak dibesarkan dengan celaan, ia belajar memaki.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan permusuhan, ia belajar berkelahi.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan cemoohan, ia belajar rendah diri.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan hinaan, ia belajar menyesali diri.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan toleransi, ia belajar menahan diri.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan dorongan, ia belajar percaya diri.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan pujian, ia belajar menghargai.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan sebaik-baiknya perlakuan, ia belajar keadilan.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan rasa aman, ia belajar menaruh kepercayaan.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan dukungan, ia belajar menyenangi dirinya.
Jika anak dibesarkan dengan kasih sayang dan persahabatan, ia belajar menemukan cinta dalam kehidupan.

Ana ing dhuwur kasebutake isi puisi kang kaanggit dening Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D, saka puisi iki mau isine minangka sentilan marang awake dhewe. Apa awake dhewe wis isa ninggalake bab-bab negatif sing ora pantes dithuladha anak-anak saka wong tuwane? Apa awake dhewe wis kasil menehi tuladha bab-bab sing positif marang anake dhewe? Mula penulis ngajak minangka wong tuwa ya kudu menehi tuladha sing becik marang anak-anake, amarga anak iku ngaca saka wong tuywane. Yaiku maelu apa wae sing dadi sikap lan perilakune wong tuwane.